Therapy &
Workshops
There is a range of ways to work with me. I try to meet you where you are and work from that starting point. It’s a collaboration. It is required to start with a bootcamp or the couples intensive so that we can be on level footing about the approach I take. Have a read below and feel free to reach out with questions!
Relational Bootcamps
I am a certified Relational Life Therapist & Facilitator and offer Terry Real’s Essential Relationship Skills Bootcamp Workshop. This is a two-day intensive program that fits 7-10 months of traditional therapy, practices, and education into one weekend.
It's an educational group that offers a less intense learning environment and is more affordable and less time-consuming than traditional therapy. The workshop is available to any individual or couple, regardless of marital status or sexual orientation, who is focused on improving their relationships and the skills surrounding their interactions. Participants will learn to incorporate more relational knowledge and experience into all relationships.
Couples will uncover their current “losing” strategies and learn to practice and apply winning strategies. All individuals will learn how to break the cycle of negative relationship patterns and foster positive interactions. With Bootcamp, participants get to hear from other participants and reinforce their practice of living relationally.
Reasons for choosing Bootcamp
- 14 hours of psychoeducation in Relational Life Therapy
- Educational group, not a therapy group
- Less intense environment for learning. (the neuroscience shows us we are able to learn/lay new neural pathways when we feel safe!)
- Less expensive and time-consuming than traditional therapy, and we need symptom relief — like yesterday!
- Opportunity to hear from other participants and practice new skills. It’s not just me, it’s us!
What to expect in Bootcamp:
- Two-day program with Saturday and Sunday sessions
- 20-40 people in a classroom setting
- Opportunities to process and practice with others
- Everyone is encouraged to “pass” on anything they’re not comfortable with. No one is obligated to do anything.
- I assign local people to work with out of state couples to further ensure safety and confidentiality
Outcomes of Bootcamp:
- Grow in personal awareness of what makes you and your partner tick
- Get to the root causes of painful disconnections
- Learn about interpersonal neurobiology and creating new patterns
- Less expensive and time-consuming than traditional therapy, and we need symptom relief — like yesterday!
- Learn about relationship cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair
Couples Therapy
In therapy sessions we'll work together to identify patterns, set goals to create positive change in your relationship. You can expect a relaxed, conversational environment where you can feel comfortable being yourselves and talking openly and honestly about what's going on in your lives and relationship. We'll discuss homework assignments and strategies for you to practice outside of our sessions, which will help you continue to make progress in your relationship and personal growth. Throughout the process, I'll be there to support you every step of the way.
Reasons to choose couples therapy:
- You’ve already completed bootcamp and/or couples intensive.
- You want to improve communication with your partner
- You're experiencing problems with intimacy or sex
- You want to rebuild trust after infidelity
- You want to address issues related to parenting or in-laws
- You want to learn how to manage conflict and disagreements effectively
- You want to work on personal issues that are impacting your relationship
What to expect in therapy:
- Regularly scheduled 50-100 minute sessions
- Homework assignments and opportunities to respond differently
- Continued cultivation of relational practice
- Opportunities for individualized therapy to assist in accomplishing relational goals
Outcomes of therapy:
- Continued cultivation of relational practice with regularly scheduled 50-100 minute therapy and coaching sessions
- Opportunities for individualized therapy to assist in accomplishing relational goals
Couples Intensive
Couples intensive is a personalized, two-day program where individuals or couples, regardless of marital status or sexual orientation, focus on improving their relationships and the skills surrounding their interactions.
We'll complete a history of your journey, identify goals and use exercises like experiential exercises, and psychodrama to heal from past injuries and create new patterns. Couples will uncover current strategies that aren’t working and learn to apply winning strategies. All individuals will learn how to break the cycle of negative relationship patterns and foster positive interactions.
The outcomes of couples intensive are similar to bootcamp, including learning about neurobiology and cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair. It is a powerful, personalized approach to healing and growing your relationship.
Reasons for choosing couples intensives:
- You’ve experienced a relationship rupture and desire expedited healing
- Desire for concentrated personalized therapy and coaching
- If you’ve experienced repeated relationship rupture and desire for expedited healing
- Desire for one-on-one therapy without group setting
What to expect in a couples intensive:
- Two-day program with individual work in front of and with your partner
- Exercises including experiential roleplay, and psychodrama
Outcomes of a couples intensive:
- Similar outcomes as bootcamp
- Grow in personal awareness of what makes you and your partner tick
- Get to the root causes of painful disconnections
- Learn about interpersonal neurobiology and creating new patterns
- Learn about relationship cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair
Grow Your Wise Adult Self
This class is for anyone who has times where you feel like there are some underdeveloped areas (or parts) of you. Anyone who battles with self worth issues. Anyone who is overly impacted by others thoughts, feelings, words, actions or who are impervious to them. This is for anyone who struggles with attempting to earn their value, or is plagued with a bent toward perfectionism. If you could benefit from upping your "self care" game, asking for what you would like, knowing what you'd like. If you are prone to attempting to control others or have a hard time saying "no."
The Wise Adult Self is the cultivated part of ourselves that is able to survey the landscape of nuanced options available to reach our desired goal from an emotionally mature place. The typical default we are attempting to shift from is our "triggered" or "activated" or "flipped lid" state of a threat response.
If you would like to learn, cultivate and practice specific skills to strengthen the capacity of your own Wise Adult, this course is for you.
Each class has 60-75 minutes of formal lecture and handouts, 15-30 minutes for participant questions. Participants are invited to send questions in between classes and will be given a recorded MP3 of the lectures each week, for personal review.
What is a wise adult?
A wise adult is the part of our brain that can respond to the complicated and difficult task of navigating life and relationships waaaay more effectively than the reactive and protective child part of our brain. The wise adult part of us has to be CULTIVATED – and exactly who would have taught us how to identify and then practice the necessary skills to strengthen this wise adult? No one! So… This class is for you!
What is this class like?
- It's 6 weeks of live, online classes from 7-8:30pm. Each class will include 60-75 minutes of formatted lecture and handouts, followed by 15 to 30 minutes for participant questions.
- Participants are invited to send questions in between classes and will be given a recorded MP3 of the lectures for personal review.
- The cost is $375. Register a second participant and receive 50% off your second registration.